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How to Find Someone You've Lost Touch With
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Old friends, former roommates, long-lost relatives: where to look, and how to reach out.
A college roommate, a childhood best friend, a cousin nobody has heard from in years. Finding them is easier than you might think.
Start with what you know
Write down everything: full name (and any maiden or married names), approximate age, last known city, school, employer or military unit. Every detail narrows the search.
Free places to look
- Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn, including friends of friends.
- Alumni groups and reunion pages.
- Veterans' associations and unit groups.
- Mutual friends and relatives. Someone usually knows.
When the trail goes cold
People move, marry and change numbers. When all you have is a name and an old town, a people search pulls public records into one place and often turns up a current address or phone number.
Reaching out
Keep it light: a short message or card saying who you are and how you know them. Give them room to reply in their own time.
Why reconnecting matters
Strong social connections are linked to better health and happiness as we age. Reconnecting with an old friend can bring joy and new energy.
Ways to connect
- A handwritten letter or card.
- A phone or video call.
- A coffee or lunch if you live nearby.
Grandchildren can often help with social media searches.
People-search services are not consumer reporting agencies. Under the FCRA, their results can't be used to decide on employment, housing, credit or insurance.
